Dear Jon and Kate,

Reality television has taken a toll on your family. Regardless of what either of you were like before you had children and reality fame please realize that the current state of your marriage and family is in shambles. Did you try for multiples in the hopes that it would get your family fame, money and all of life’s little luxuries? Or was the reality fame something that started as an idea once you had your cute little brood of kids?

The answer is not necessary, nor are you required to answer it but now is the time to retreat, go to counseling and really think about why you wanted to get married and have children. Even if divorce is inevitable, counseling will give each of you the tools to be positive, loving parents to your children. This is something that you owe them, for they did not ask to be born into a fishbowl, nor did they ask for cameras to be in their faces daily.

I am a lover of all magazines, websites and news outlets but during this breakdown of the marriage, your need to give in detail how the children reacted to your split and to Kate, throwing your husband under the bus as if he was the only one at fault for this breakdown has caused me not to buy the magazines, to skip through information concerning the he said, she said debacle. Please, give it a rest, close up the family business and dig deep into your souls as to why the marriage went downhill and how you can salvage it or either learn to treat each other with respect.

I am not a child of a broken home but even I knew when something was up when my parents had a disagreement. Those precious children get that the love that was once there is gone. They also will ask where those loving people in their lives have disappeared to when they used to be there all of the time.

Jon, I get it, you are 32 and didn’t have your twenties to party and sow your oats but you made a commitment to your wife and children. Stop dressing like a frat boy or wanna be thug. It is not becoming nor will it make your case of wanting to be there for your kids. We all make choices and sacrifices in life, this is your time to stand up and ask for respect as well as compromise on some of the dreams you have for yourself.

Kate, tromping around in bikinis, deluding yourself that everyone wants to be just like you and taking for granted all of those who have helped in the past needs to be forgotten. Learn about humility, graciousness and the common sense of not spewing such hatred for your husband is a great start. Start thinking about the choices you made when you started cutting family and friends out and ask yourself why? Was it a healthy decision or was it about control. Also, you can spank or discipline your children as you see fit but also know that the key to raising kids is keeping the anger out of it while doling it out. Forget the spa, the tanning appointments and trying to create an entourage to make yourself feel more important than you really are.

It is sad to see that a family that supposedly loved each other has taken such a huge turn off the tracks. Many stories have come out about the bad behavior each of you have shown the world. Again, it doesn’t matter if you behaved like this before the cameras were turned on or not, what matters is creating a loving family that feels safe.

My parents never took me to Disney World, I rode on my first airplane when I was 20 and getting handouts/sponsorships were not part of the deal. My parents sacrificed for me by allowing me to be a kid, travel while I was in youth group and helped out when possible when I went away to college. That is what matters most, they loved and supported me (even to this day) and that cannot equal all the money in the world. I would have loved to have had a car at 16, a college education on them or every vacation imaginable for a child but they gave me love and that has made all the difference in my life.

Will your children be able to say the same when they are adults?


What you see is what you get; I am a Nashville girl who is single, again. I use the blog to get my inner, tortured, wanna be writer angst out. One day I just may write a book. I have been stumbling through life for 43 years now, I love to cook, read and figure out more embarrassing ways I can either harm myself (thank you hula hoop of 2010 and the case of the thrown back) or just prove how inept I am at household chores and dieting. The people you read about on here are real but most have had their names changed to protect the innocent and not so innocent. And I really should make a list of them so I can remember! Enjoy, read, mock, laugh and comment, it really isn't difficult. Plus, I would prefer reading comments from real people as opposed to the weird spam comments I keep getting. Plus, I will always find the hardest path to follow and take that one, why would anyone want to take the easy way?!

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